Last month I had a birthday and turned 38. I don’t know if anyone else is the same as I always see my birthday as my own mini new year. I check in with myself against any goals I have set or sometimes will set myself some new goals for the year ahead.
This year I wanted to do something different. I wanted to take a more gentle approach. The last 12 months I was at my unhealthiest, probably negative mentally, poorly and tired. All of which made me want to take a kind and gentle approach to myself. So I decided to set myself a manifesto on how I treat myself:
My birthday manifesto:
I will only buy clothes that I really love, that I have tried on and make me feel amazing. I love wearing nice clothes however I have fallen in to the trap of buying what fits, or what’s in the sale. Also I want to start buying clothes that feel like me for example, I love animal print however there is very little in my wardrobe. I am also extending this to wear matching underwear more frequently. Never fails to make me feel great.
Less people pleasing and more listening to what I need. I was surprised when I realised I my people pleasing had gone up a notch in the last year or so. It’s important to listen to your own needs and wants so that you can stay positive and happy. I like it when people are happy and I can support them. However you are only responsible for your own happiness.
To show myself kindness and compassion. To make sure I don’t get stuck listening to my inner critic and negative self talk. I think most of us can be guilty of this sometimes but it only ever makes me feel worse. To buy that scented candle, blanket or lipstick if that’s what I want at the time. Instead of thinking what other more practical item the money could go on!
I have just finished reading Playing Big by Tara Mohr and it gave me a lot to think about. With this in mind I am giving myself permission to play big. To take opportunities when they arise, or create them if I need to. To stop holding myself back and giving in to the fear.
Do you have a birthday ritual? If so I would love to hear about it!