Initially I was going to post this at the weekend however Prosecco happened.
I have been part of a step family since I was 10 years old. The best thing my biological parents did was call it a day. Children are pretty resilient and as long as they know they are and feel loved then they will do just fine. I have a good relationship with my Step Dad and always have done. He taught me about politics, F1 and Unions. I had a good role model as unbeknown at the time I would be in a similar position.
Fast forward 23 years ish and I am now a Step Parent myself. I love being a Step Mum and being able to invest my love, time and energy into two little people. At first I found it a little overwhelming and I had an early riser in the house, so 6am starts on a weekend became the norm. I was like a new parent in that my life had changed and I was tired.
I loved that I was able to get to know my stepchildren’s personalities, their dislikes, likes and I am really proud of the relationship that I have with them. When we were first introduced to each other they were 3 and 6 years old, so little and small at the time. I had no idea how to be a parent. It’s amazing how quickly we formed a unique and beautiful bond. I have no desire to be their Mum, there is place for us all in our family.
As in any family life it is has its ups and downs. I remember the first time I told them off and they cried. I went into a different room and cried, I felt so awful. The role of the Step Mum is a difficult one to be casted to as it’s not one that society really gets behind. I’m looking at you Cinderella! There are a lot of challenges for you to overcome but it is worth it, my family is worth it. My other half has been and continues to be very supportive which has really helped me.
I am conscious that I want to be a positive influence in their lives. I want them to see that hard work and going for your dreams are worth it. I talk to them about politics, Brexit, Trump, being kind to others, womans movement, being the best you can be, Scooby Doo, Henry Danger and pretty much anything else they want to have a chat about. It makes me smile when they repeat something that I say. I love and feel honoured to know that I am helping shape their world and get to support them and see them grow into who they will be. I love them very much and cannot imagine life without them.
So I just want to say to all the Mums, Dads, Step Mums and Step Dads, well done and keep going. I know at times it is hard for you all individually however what brings you back together is the love you have for the children and that you want the best for them. At the end we all have the same end goal which is to raise the best people that we can.